Someone once said, before you argue with someone, ask yourself, is that person even mentally mature enough to grasp the concept of a different perspective? Because if not, there's absolutely no point.

Not every argument is worth your energy. Sometimes, no matter how clearly you express yourself, the other person isn't listening to understand - they're listening to react.

They're stuck in their own perspective, unwilling to consider another viewpoint, and engaging with them only drains you. There's a difference between a healthy discussion and a pointless debate.

A conversation with someone who is open-minded, who values growth and understanding, can be enlightening - even if you don't agree. But trying to reason with someone who refuses to see beyond their own beliefs is like talking to a wall. No matter how much logic or truth you present, they will twist, deflect, or dismiss your words, not because you're wrong, but because they're unwilling to see another side.

Maturity isn't about who wins an argument - it's about knowing when an argument isn't worth having. It's realising that your shalom (peace) is more valuable than proving a point to someone who has already decided they won't change their mind. Not every battle needs to be fought. Not every person deserves your explanation.

Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is walk away - not because you have nothing to say, but because you recognise that some people aren't ready to listen. And that's not your burden to carry.

Further Reading

[1] Debating: What We Think About It

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