Relationship-building takes time and usually results in messes, small and great. The closer you are to someone, the more mistakes and messes you make. Even Isaac and Rebekah had their issues even though they were Yahweh's choice for each other. Isaac favoured his carnal son, Esau, because he was a good hunter and cook. Rebekah favoured Jacob because he was spiritual but the bad part was she prepared to deceive her husband and force Yahweh into changing His birthright rules concerning the firstborn to ensure the spiritual son's 'rights' as she perceived them. Only Yahweh can change his own rules, as He did with Manasseh and Ephraim, making the younger the firstborn for a prophetic purpose. Both Isaac (for relating the spiritual to second place) and Rebekah (for rebellion and deception) sinned grievously.

They both made mistakes because they had free will. They could each have changed and made better choices but didn't. They could have quarrelled and gone their separate ways but didn't...to their credit. Most moderns would have separated and divorced. Why did they stay together? Because of COVENANT LOVE. Because they promised to before Elohim/God and man. And what Yahweh has joined together, man is forbidden to separate (Mt.9:6; Mk.10:9).

Yes, He joins us together with our companions even though He knows they will make mistakes and sometimes fail to rectify them. That's why in our marriage vows we agree to stay "for better or worse". That's why we need to know His will for sure. But once we do, and obey, we are duty- and love-bound to make it work.

The result of Rebekah's and Isaac's choices has been constant warfare between the descendants of Esau and Jacob ever since. Those first parental woundings have wound up in the lives of millions of peoples in the form of 'generational sins'. They can be fixed now, thanks to Yah'shua the Messiah/Jesus Christ who has opened the way to forgiveness and reconciliation through His death for us on the cross and subsequent resurrection power. Today Arabs and Israelites, the descendants of Esau and Jacob, are miraculously making shalom/peace with each other through Christ.

So, yes, even foreordained partners like Adam and Eve, and Isaac and Rebekah, and Jacob and Leah and Rachel and Bilhah and Zilpah, can, did, and do, make mistakes but they are fixable. Worse, though, is making ill-advised marriages with those Yahweh has NOT ordained, for then you will have a battlefield on your hands and much 'emotional bloodshed'. But even those super-messy marriages can, and should, be made to work for the duration of this lifetime through the mediation of a mutually shared Redeemer, Yah'shua the Messiah/Jesus the Christ for we are bound to them by the covenant-love we bound ourselves to when we said 'Yes' before Heaven and earthly witnesses.

The Elohim/God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, as He is happy to be called because these men were His friends (like Joseph and David), can bring together Isaac's & Rebekah's, Jacob's & Leahs-Rachels-Bilhahs-Zilpahs, and make their marriages work and last, not just into old age but forever. It gets easier over time with better familiarity, willingness and forbearance. But it does take ongoing effort. Most importantly, though, it's absolutely worth it!

This page was created on 14 March 2025 Last updated on 14 March 2025

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