On the whole people have no problem identifying themselves with, and fantasising about, being emperors or empresses, feudal lords and queens, bosses, warriors and chiefs. That's what the flesh wants. The trouble is, not everybody can be these things, and in the real world, only a handful ever are. How many real emperors and empresses do you know of in the world today? A great many rulers are tyrants.

There's a reason why rôle-playing games are so popular, that's why people choose fantasy over reality, because they want to be in charge. That's why they end up alone, because in real life nobody wants to be around bossy, squabbling royal wannabees. Truth told, if they could see themselves in the mirror, nobody would even want to be with themselves either. But because the flesh desirex to be in charge so strongly, people often end up with split personalities. Since no one else wants to be dominated by egotistical maniacs, they are forced to dominate themselves, or fantasy figures in the unreal electronic metaspace world.

That's a reason so many people are utterly miserable and isolated. The love of sin in an electronic age has enabled them to do this to themselves at the expense of their own happiness.

Yahweh did not create us to be alone. We were made for companionship with others who have wills with whom we must negotiate to find working relationships. This is typically a messy business, the more so without proper authority. To be happy and companionable, we must first of all place ourselves under the authority of the Creator, Yahweh-Elohim, and learn submission to Him in all things. Every individual must learn to do that. But we were created for society too. This means that children must places themselves under the authority of their parents, wives under their husbands, husbands under pastors, pastors under bishops, and the inhabitants of countries under governments, elected or imposed. The potential for messing-up is HUGE, but being alone is far worse. And being without any sort of authority or government leads to CHAOS...ANARCHY.. which Elohim/God hates.

We were created - all of us - to be SERVANTS to one another first of all. We were made for service to Elohim/God and man. Done freely or voluntarily, this can be a joyful experience. When our service is received with gratitude, this fosters a sense of belonging and community. When it is reciprocated, it beings deep contentment.

All of the above together is the Christian/Messianic way. It's what we were designed for. To be sure, it's a lot easier to be alone under our own authority, but nobody wants to be lonely. Adam didn't, even with Heavenly Father for comanionship in the Garden. You can be 100% egotistical when you're alone but when you live in community - in marriage, in family, in society - you are often forced to think of others ahead of yourself. When everyone thinks of others the way Father Yahweh has ordained in His Torah, happiness and contentment result.

You can choose to be alone if you wish...and sometimes, understandably (and rightly) this is the only safe thing to do in a hostile world full of abusers...but you will never grow alone. Find those you can trust and who have proven themselves reliable and safe if you've got into the habit of being alone. You won't regret it.

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